Thomas Francis Hayden, 67, of Putnam Valley and New York City, died Sept. 14, 2019.
He was born Oct. 25, 1951, the son of Frank and Anne Hayden. He grew up in Bethpage, Long Island, where he graduated in 1969 from Chaminade High School. He held a bachelor’s degree from St. John’s University and a master’s degree from the New School in New York City.
Tom worked for many years as director of pharmacies at Riker’s Island. Tom also volunteered for many nonprofit organizations, including AHRC New York City (which aids people with intellectual and other developmental disabilities), the Cold Spring Lion’s Club, the Putnam History Museum, the Constitution Island Association, and St. Philip’s Episcopal Church in Garrison.
Tom loved attending Friday night gatherings at the Antipodean bookstore on Garrison’s Landing, where friends will raise a toast in his memory on Friday, Sept. 20. He also was a patron to many artists, a subscriber at the New York Philharmonic and regularly attended chamber music concerts at The Juilliard School and the Jupiter Symphony. He loved Indian cuisine and adored dogs.
Tom is survived by his partner of 24 years, Preston Pittman, and a sister, Barbara Delmonaco (Alex), as well as three nephews and a niece. Pittman said everyone who knew Tom loved his infectious laughter and the twinkle in his eye.
A funeral service will be held at 12:30 p.m. on Friday, Oct. 4, at St. Philip’s Church, 1101 Route 9D. Memorial donations can be made to the AHRC NYC Foundation (ahrcnycfoundation.org) or to St. Philip’s (stphilipshighlands.org).